We recognize that an unexpected pregnancy can be especially difficult for women, their partners, families, friends and parents. We encourage young patients to talk to their parents if they feel comfortable to do so. Going through an abortion can be a major turning point in a young adult’s life
Studies have shown young women are more likely to experience a favourite outcome after an abortion if their parents are supportive.
We hear from young clients, “I don’t know what I would have done without my mom. She told me she would support me 100% no matter what I chose to do about this pregnancy.”
Your child is more likely to perceive you as completely supportive if you have said you would help with any decision that is made. It is important that you reinforce your promise with action. It is normal for parents to have strong feelings about their daughter’s pregnancy. It is normal to feel worried, sad, angry, or frightened. Your child needs your help and support.
Your first reaction may be shock, disappointment, anger, fear and or sadness. You may be feeling overwhelmed too. After your initial reaction, you will be searching inside yourself for understanding, patience and compassion. Remember, your daughter has chosen to come to you with this crisis. Now you must decide how you will respond to her display of trust.
The most important thing you can do is to listen to what your daughter says about how she feels. It is very important that your daughter feels comfortable making the decision and that she feels that she is the primary decision – maker. This may mean that you need to take step back and let her think this through. Of course, you will eventually tell her what you think and how her decision will affect you, but understand that this must ultimately be her decision. Let her explore how she feels first. If your daughter chooses to have an abortion, your care and support will contribute greatly to her physical and emotional health. Patience is crucial. Understand your daughter is as confused, consented and worried as you are.
In our experience, we have found the following to be most helpful:
- Be available throughout the abortion experience.
- Offer to drive her to and from our office, fill her prescriptions, check in on her frequently and bring her back to the office if a follow up is needed.
- Take some time to sit quietly with her and listen to her feelings. Watch her body language.
- Reassure her that you love her, will always love her, no matter what
We are here to answer any of your questions and help you with anything you need regarding the abortion process.