We understand that an unwanted pregnancy can be a difficult challenge for both partners in the relationship. Although you are going through the situation together, you may be experiencing different emotions. A woman has to deal with pregnancy hormones, and being the one who undergoes the physical aspect of the abortion or the pregnancy.
As the male in the relationship, you are also feeling emotions and it is important to stay open and communicate those emotions to your partner. This is a critical decision that you are making together. Difficult situations often strengthen a couple, if you work through the situation and help each other get through the emotions and difficulties experienced. This is a chance to learn more about your partner and learn how to handle tough decisions as a couple. This will in turn become a healthier couple by growing together.
You may feel different about options on how to move forward, but it is ultimately the woman’s decision. It is important to let your partner know how you feel and what you think is compassionate manner .
Few tips on how you can be there for your partner:
Women often feel extreme emotions during this time. She may experience anger, sadness or disappointment. All of these reactions are normal and it is best to be there for her and let her experience these emotions knowing she has your support. Listen to her and be affectionate. Make sure she feels that you want to be there for her, let her know you are there to stay and there to help her through this situation that you got into together.
Another important lesson is to be honest. While a women may make the ultimate decision about the pregnancy it is important that she knows exactly how you feel and what you want to do as well. Whether she decide to continue with the pregnancy or terminate the pregnancy you must be there for her emotionally and financially to support her decision. The most disappointing thing you can do is make a promises that you cannot keep. You must make it clear that you will be there for her no matter what she chooses, however your feelings on her decision must also be heard. It is better for her to know how you feel than for her to have false expectations. Tell her the reasons for how you feel. There may be a variety of reasons for how you may feel and it is important that you convey them to her.
Understand it is ultimately her decision
The more support you give, the more she will know that she is not alone. This support will help her give her confidence in her relationship and in the ultimate decision she needs to make. It is essential that you understand that this is ultimately her decision. This may not seem fair. However she is carrying the pregnancy and the pregnancy can only proceed if she chooses to allow it to continue. You need to accept this situation, and all you can do is to be honest and direct your energy into supporting her in her decision. Understand that she can bring a child into this world whether you like it or not. If she does, you are obligated by law to financially support her and the child for the next 21 years.
Seek support from your peers
One of the more difficult aspects of going through an unwanted pregnancy is that people do not openly talk about the subject. Many couples go through this once in their lives. If you know anyone who has been through the same situation, reach out to them, talk about how you feel. Take advantage of any sources you can to get advice from, to talk to, or simply to hear about others in a similar situation.